Dr. Victoria Lee
Joyful Sexuality--the website of
Dr. Victoria Lee, Psychologist and Sex Therapist
Lifelong passion is your birthright!
Dr. Victoria Lee Welcomes You to lifedoctor.org
Dr. Lee provides powerful tools for couples who want to enrich and deepen their relationships and their sexual experience. Dr. Lee says:
It's my privilege to offer you a safe place to share deeply with your partner, and to learn new skills that you practice at home. After 21 years as a psychologist and sex therapist, I have well-developed skills that I've used to assist couples with many different sexual and relationship issues. If you are not experiencing the intimacy and passion you long for with your partner, please consider seeking this expert help. The following questions may help you make that decision:
Q. Have you ever experienced difficulties with arousal, orgasm, erections, or premature ejaculation? If so, please be aware that your experience is normal. These are problems most people experience at times, and I have helped many people solve them.
Q. Are you among those couples who've almost given up on sex? You'd be surprised how common this is. All couples deserve the joy of a satisfying intimate life, and many of them need new skills, accurate information, and good coaching to make it a reality. I can assist you with a carefully designed program of exercises you do at home together.
Q. Are you distressed about poor communication, recurring anger, money problems, or difficulties with children, stepchildren or in-laws? All these can improve in the safe atmosphere of therapy with a trusted guide. My expertise can help you change things in important ways.
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My specific areas of expertise:
• Sex therapy for loving couples. Relationship issues are always part of the solution. After finding out how you want things to change, you're given proven exercises to do at home.
• Couple Counseling: communication skills, conflict resolution, finding common ground. Develop new skills for dealing with children, in-laws and money-management. Discover or re-experience the deeper purpose of your relationship.
• Healing grief and mourning. Loss and bereavement can affect your relationship.
• Using insights from Gestalt, Jungian and transpersonal and other forms of psychotherapy, I bring my clients the skills of an 22 years as a psychotherapist, as well as those of an experienced clinical supervisor and trainer of therapists.
Press Release
Providing tools for a life that matters
Speeches:
Dr. Lee is a skilled and inspirational speaker, addressing audiences in colleges, corporations and conferences. She has spoken on relational, sexual and corporate topics around the United States and abroad, including offering keynote and other presentations for professional associations, university gatherings, and in international locations such as Findhorn, Scotland.
Her high energy approach draws from her experiences as a psychologist, college professor, sex therapist and life strategist. She inspires her listeners to achieve mastery, create effective strategies, and enrich their relationships.
Event planners and audience members say:
• "We can always count on Dr. Lee to deliver a memorable speech. She's inspiring, entertaining, and outrageous enough to get me a lot of good feedback for booking her."
• "Dr. Lee convinced our members that they could make a difference, and inspired them to start immediately. I myself was galvanized to take the first step in taking my career to a new level."
• "Dr. Lee's speech was exciting--a highlight of the conference. She taught strategies that my students tell me they use every day."
For topics and fees, please email drlee@drvictorialee.com.
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Counseling, Teaching and Supervision:
What are your heart's deepest desires? Whether alone or with your partner, collaborating with a skillful, supportive psychotherapist who is committed to helping you achieve your goals is a wonderful gift to give yourself.
Dr. Lee has taught at three universities, and received enthusiastic evaluations from students and fellow faculty. She has trained therapists in the United States and abroad, and is a supportive clinical supervisor.
Media Appearances:
Victoria Lee is a skilled media guest who has apeared on radio and TV shows around the country. She enjoys sharing her expertise with large audiences, and is experienced doing shows on timely topics as well as on her signature topics which focus on building a life that includes a committment to service.
Producers and hosts say:
• "Dr. Victoria is someone we can always count on. She's an expert with heart and compassion."
• "When news stories about relationshps, life passages, and sexuality come up, we know who to call."
• "Dr. Lee understands our business. I can call her at the last minute, and if she has a time window, she'll fit us in. She's easy to work with, and our listeners love her."
Dr. Lee has been a psychologist since 1988 (PSY10652), and was first licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist. She is a past-President of Santa Clara Valley Marriage and Family Therapists in Silicon Valley and was the Director of the Master's in Counseling Psychology at College of Notre Dame. She has also taught at John F. Kennedy University and San Jose State University. She has extensive experience in the training and supervision of therapists, and have led workshops and spoken at conferences internationally.
Dr. Lee On Couple Therapy:
"I love to see couples; they are the great pioneers in this incredible journey of challenge and growth. Often, couples come because their sexual or communication skills need attention. They want to recapture the sweetness and excitement they once felt for each other--to feel the same compassion for each other they feel for anyone in pain. I'm grateful to have heard many times that "This work has made all the difference in our relationship!
It comes easily to me to be able to see each partner's side, and to communicate my support to both; successful couple therapy requires this. Perhaps my gifts as a couple therapist start with how much I value the possibilities and challenges of intimate partnership. It's so important for a couple therapist to understand (and teach couples to see) the priceless opportunity for spiritual and emotional growth their partnership offers."
Sex Therapy:
Dr. Lee's book Ecstatic Lovemaking: An Intimate Guide to Souful Sex offers a unique approach. It's a book that explains how a sacred approach to sexuality eases the solving of problems and the return to the lifelong passion which is everyone's birthright. If a couple has a history of strong attraction and enjoyable lovemaking, ten sessions or less may be enough to get them back on track in their intimate life.
Restoring libido, resolving frequency issues, fostering orgasms when desired, improving the length and quality of erections, negotiating preferences for some acts or positions over others--these are all the daily fare of sex therapy, as is learning to skillfully and lovingly communicate your sexual desires and needs.
If you have physical limitations or health problems, you most certainly don't need to give up on sex. Even quadraplegia need not be a barrier to satisfying sex. Nor is aging and the body changes that go with it. The young and buff have no corner on joyful lovemaking! It's all about having an open heart."
Click here to see Dr. Lee on YouTube!
Individual Therapy:
Dr. Lee says:
Most of my clients are very successful in important areas of their lives. Being courageous and self-aware, they notice when the wounds of childhood continually intrude. I provide the tools for change--skills learned over 25 years as a psychotherapist. It is most definitely possible to heal childhood and to replace old anger and sadness with compassion for yourself and for those who raised you! Achieving that gives you true freedom from the past. Each way in which we cling to the idea that our parents failed us and deserve to suffer for it limits our freedom.
As Rumi says:
When you think your father is guilty
of an injustice, his face looks cruel....
When you make peace
with your father, he will look peaceful....
Make peace with the universe.
Take joy in it. It wll turn to gold.
Every moment a new beauty!
Dr. Lee comments on "Rumi: a source of great wisdom:"
"Rumi, Hafiz, Mary Oliver and other soul poets inspire me in my own journey and in my work. In my book The Rumi Secret, I offer many examples of how Rumi's wisdom applies to every area of our lives. The book's subtitle is "A Psychologist Speaks of Love, Sex, Grief and Joy as Spiritual Practice." Go to this site Book Page to learn more about The Rumi Secret: Spiritual Lessons of History's Most Revered Poet.
Courageous Dying:
"If you are facing your own or someone else's life-threatening illness or death, I stand ready to support you on your journey. It has been my privilege to be at the bedside of dying people offering support both to them and to the family. It is possible to loose your fear of death, and that too offers great freedom. There's nothing to fear!"
Coaching:
"Some clients come for coaching rather than for healing of the past. They want to increase their sales or their profits. They want to make career changes, grow their companies, or learn to become more effective managers or team leaders.
With these clients, our process starts with immediate goal setting and prioritizing, followed by establishing a clear, detailed and written Plan of Action. The Plan includes time lines which we will systematically track.
Since I have personal experience in the fields of education, real estate and community organizing, I am especially knowledgeable in these arenas. I have also coached many clients in technical, engineering and start-up situations. Feel free to question me about my background in your areas of concern."
Email and Phone Work:
Coaching lends itself especially well to working by phone and email; geographic distance is no barrier. If you can come in for an initial consultation, it gives us a faster start. But we can still work together very successfully if you live in another state or country.
These books offer compelling tools for your life journey:
Ecstatic Lovemaking: An Intimate Guide to Soulful Sex and
The Rumi Secret: Spiritual Lessons of History's Most Revered Poet (A Psychologist Speaks of Love, Sex, Grief and Joy As Spiritual Practice)
To Order Either of These Books, go to the About the Book page, below. For signed copies or multiple copies, call us at 510.882.2330. You may also buy the books from Amazon.com.
